“… in order to make this mutual forgiveness deep and God-pleasing, the sources of hostility must be uprooted. Self-pity, the keeping of grudges, the lurking presence of condemnation of others–if not “surgically” uprooted, will go deeper into the soul and become a part of one’s character and personality, and like a cancer will eat away at man’s union with God and make one a spiritual invalid who is incapable of producing fruits of repentance.”
(Abbot Herman+ in Orthodox America magazine)